Bad Christmas Presents For Your Wife

Shopping is not an activity that most men enjoy. Especially when it involves a big crowd, long queues and expensive price tags. However, husbands cannot escape shopping for a Christmas present for their wife. It is a time for you to show how much you appreciate and love her. Getting the right gift is important. Get the wrong gift and you send the wrong message. If you don’t want to be an “insensitive” husband, avoid getting things in the list below which I deem to be bad Christmas presents for your wife.

Household appliances

Do not be tempted to buy household appliances such as juicers, breadmakers, vacuum cleaners, food processors or cappuccino makers as a Christmas gift. Yes, it will lighten her load and help out in her chores. However, gifts are not about making life easy for her. In my book, it shouldn’t even be considered a gift but rather a household necessity. Gifts are about making her feel good about herself. It’s a message saying how special she is to you and how much you love her. Don’t get me wrong. You can buy household appliances for her. In fact, you should. Just not as a Christmas present.

Clothes

Too many things can go wrong if you decide to buy clothes for her:

  • wrong size
  • she may not like the material
  • wrong color
  • don’t fit well.

If you believe this is the best gift, then take her with you or be 100% sure it is something she wants.

Self Improvement books or CDs

Women are very sensitive. Give a self improvement or CD for a gift and she will very likely interpret it wrongly. You may think you are doing her a favor but she will not see it that way. Gifts should not in any way point out her weaknesses. So, stay away from those recipe books and how-to guides.

Chocolates and Teddy bears

These gifts are too generic. It shows that you didn’t put much thought into it. They are not special enough for a Christmas present. Plus, if you have children, they would think it is silly for mommy to be playing with teddy bears. Gourmet chocolates is an okay gift but would be better as a random gift. For example, surprise her any time throughout the year as a way of saying “I appreciate you” or “I’m thinking of you”. If you want to give chocolates as a Christmas gift, make sure it comes with something more personal like jewelry.

Decorations

I’m talking about something that you would put on a wall, table or shelf just for display purposes. So, no ugly lamps, statues or paintings. The exception would be if you framed up a nice picture of her, the family or both of you together. If it’s meaningless or does not trigger an emotion (other than disgust and disappointment), don’t get it.

To get the right Christmas gift for your wife, take some time to ponder what she wants. Don’t think so much about what she needs. Here are some hints:

  • She wants a break. She wants some time away from chores, work and kids.
  • She wants to be pampered.
  • She wants to feel loved. Inject some romance into her life.
  • She wants to know she is special. Give her something personal that reflects your love for her.

Happy shopping!

The Key To Successful Whiteboard Presentations

Simply grabbing a marker and running up to the whiteboard isn’t going to produce fantastic results. Here are 5 little-known pro tips to boost your skills in whiteboard presenting.

If you want to give successful whiteboard presentations, you must learn how to plan, prepare and perform. In short, you must make it easy for your audience to understand what you have to offer.

A good whiteboard presentation is built with the audience in mind. As in other types of presenting, relying on one generic presentation is a risky approach. When it comes to presenting, a ‘one size fits all’ is not only dangerous, it is a surefire way to kill your success.

Make it easy for people to see what you mean. Show them the distinct advantage of going with your company, your recommendations and your solutions. Whether you are presenting to external clients, your boss, or an internal team, make whiteboard interaction part of your success strategy.

Tip 1. Adapt For Every Audience
Plan your whiteboard presentation-for each audience. Do not rely on a generic plan. Avoid doing ‘what you’ve always done.’

Naturally, to adapt correctly to every audience, you must do your homework. Research trends, news and emerging issues. Find out what problems and situations are top of mind. Then, adapt your whiteboard presentation to match these needs.

Tip 2. Prepare Your Plan
As in every successful project, planning is critical. Plan your whiteboard presentation with care and attention to detail. Decide which parts of your presentation are best done at the whiteboard. Choose what to show, when to show it, and how to engage your audience.

Tip 3. Go Visual
Just about any complex problem, project or process can be made clearer with a picture. But don’t worry if you don’t know what to draw. If you feel uncertain or uncomfortable with visual thinking, ask for help.

Visual learning experts are available to help you simplify complex data into easy-to-understand diagrams. In addition, experts will show you the quick and easy ways to show these diagrams, even if you swear you can’t draw.

Tip 4. Rehearse In A Safe Environment
Many professionals find that rehearsals and practice sessions are critical for success. One of the favorite ways to rehearse is to create what many people term, ‘a safe environment.’

A few examples:
• Practice in front of your kids
• Whiteboard with a presentation coach
• Sketch your ideas in a journal, then on the whiteboard

By structuring your practice sessions, you will gain confidence and boost results for your big day.

Tip 5. Timing Works Wonders
While it’s easy to get excited about interactive presenting at a whiteboard, it’s important to pay attention to the clock. Ask a friend or colleague to time your practice session. If no one is available, set a digital timer.

Experiment with making ‘on-the-spot’ choices in case your time slot is cut short. Once you know what to shorten, you can expect to feel more relaxed should this occur when you’re in front of an audience.

Giving successful whiteboard presentations enables you to take advantage of new opportunities. The next time your client says, “show me what you mean!” you will know exactly what to do.

Seeing is Believing – Using Visuals in Your Sales Presentation

Humans are incredibly visual creatures. If you think about which sense you use most often to physically navigate through the world, it’s your sight. When an attractive person walks down the street, it’s fun watching the heads swivel, because everyone wants to see person. This has some interesting and powerful implications on interpersonal communication, even though we primarily think of communication as being sound driven (i.e. talking and listening). By incorporating the sense of sight into your communicating, you engage with the other person much more completely, and they are able to really grasp what you are conveying

Here are three ways that you can use sight in your interpersonal communication, especially when you are in a selling situation. This is just the beginning of bringing other senses into your communication and it’s is a big part of improving your ability to influence other people:

1.Be aware of body language and facial expressions

I’ve read different reports that all give a different weight to the importance of body language and facial expression in communication. They all agree, though, that they are really important. Some studies suggest that over 50% of interpersonal communication could be based on just your posture, movements, and expressions. Most of physical expression is so subtle and unconscious that we don’t even notice that we are giving out these clues when talking to others.

Even though many of these are unconscious, we can become aware of, and control, the visual signals we give others. One of the most common for example, is the sign that we give others when we cross our arms across our chest. It’s often an unconscious visual signal that we are “closing off” our mind and not listening to the other person. Just learning to open your arms when listening to a client can have a huge impact. This is just one example of the subconscious signals we are giving each other as we speak to one another.

2.Your visual presentation tools

Don’t forget the adage that a picture is worth a thousand words. When you are talking to someone, what are they looking at? Are your sales materials clear and visually attractive? Do they get your point across? If you use a brochure, prospectus, or PowerPoint presentation, for example, use pictures and images that are emotionally evocative. Make sure that the pictures are telling the same story that your words are.

Also, remember that the condition of your visual images tells a story as well. Don’t use sloppy, dirty, or confusing materials. And make sure your most important visual presentation tool – your appearance – is also in alignment with your message. Make sure that you aren’t sloppy and unkempt. Also, match your appearance with the message that you are communicating. If you are selling insurance and attempting to sell respectability and trust, by all means put on a blue suit, white shirt, and power tie. If you are representing a young, new technology; a hipper appearance would make sense.

3. The talking pad

A very simple (and very powerful) tool in a sales call or any conversation where you’re trying to influence someone is to use a “talking pad”. This is basically a sheet of paper where you writing down the main points that you are trying to communicate. It can be as formal as a legal pad or notebook that you take on your sales calls, or it can be as informal as a napkin in a restaurant or the back of an envelope. The important component is that you are writing something down for the person to look at while they are listening to what you are saying.

This can be especially powerful when you are using numbers. For example, just saying, “If you take 100 widgets that would be a total of 2500 hundred dollars; with the 20% discount over 4 payments would be only five hundred a month” is a sure way to make sure the information goes in one ear and out the other. However, if you write on a piece of paper, “100 widgets = $2500 x 20% discount = $2000 over 4 payments = $500/payment, it’s a much stickier message and they process it much more quickly and much easier.

These are three simple ways to make sure that you use the power of sight when you talk with people. If you have any other ideas, please let me see them.